Relationship Survey Results


1. How would you describe your partner’s communications in your current (or most recent) relationship?
My partner is a great communicator…a great listener and easy to understand when he/she has something to say.
		40%
My partner really doesn’t like to talk much. He/she dodges a “talk” like the plague!
		31%
My partner always does the talking and doesn’t like to listen. I get frustrated because I really don’t get a chance to speak my mind. It’s as if my thoughts are not really important to him/her.
		16%
Other...please tell me about it in the box below.
		12%

2. How would you describe your communication style?
I like to tell the whole story. I give quite a bit of detail on the way to my point. When I’m listening to someone else, I also enjoy hearing all the details.
		51%
While I like to embellish my own stories with full detail, I prefer others to get right to the point when they are talking to me.
		18%
I’m a “no frills” communicator…I get straight to the point when I’m talking. I prefer others to do the same when I’m listening to them.
		15%
I get to my own points quickly, but I enjoy hearing other people share a lot of detail when they are talking to me.
		14%
Other…please tell me about it in the box below.
		2%

3. Tell me how you feel about the communication process in your current (or most recent) relationship
It’s perfect. It’s very relaxed and open. My partner and I can talk about anything.
		35%
It’s strained, and I don’t really know how that happened. It doesn’t seem to take much before we find ourselves fighting, sometimes over really simple things.
		34%
It’s impossible. It seems we never talk about anything but the necessities, and when we actually try to have a real conversation, we end up arguing or on completely different pages.
		22%
Other…tell me about it in the box below.
		9%

4. How has your communication developed in your current (or most recent) relationship?
Over time it continues to grow stronger and stronger.
		44%
We spend much less time together now due to hectic schedules, and our communication has suffered as a result. The problem is pretty simple…we just are not finding the time to stay as connected as we did before.
		26%
Over time it seems we understand each other less and less, and therefore our communications have become more distant.
		22%
Other…please tell me about it in the box below.
		8%

5. How well do you feel you understand your current (or most recent) partner?
I think I understand my partner completely. I can accurately anticipate how he/she might react to things, I know what’s most important to him/her, I understand what he/she wants out of life, and could probably finish his/her sentences most of the time.
		49%
Even though I think we communicate well, I guess I don’t really understand my partner much of the time. Sometimes I’m really surprised by his/her reactions to things. And he/she frequently does things that I’d have never anticipated.
		30%
I don’t feel I understand my partner at all, no matter how hard I try.
		17%
Other…please tell me about it in the box below.d. Other…please tell me about it in the box below.
		5%

6. 6. How well do you feel your current (or most recent) partner understands you?
I think my partner understands me completely. He/she can accurately anticipate how I might react to things, knows what’s most important to me, understands what I want out of life, and could probably finish my sentences most of the time.
		37%
Even though I think we communicate well, I don’t feel my partner really understands me much of the time. Sometimes he/she is really surprised by my reactions to things. And I frequently do things that he/she would have never anticipated.
		33%
I don’t feel my partner understands me at all.
		26%
Other…please tell me about it in the box below.
		4%

7. On a scale of 1-5, tell me how important each of these factors would be for you to make a relationship successful. 5 is extremely important, 1 is not important at all
mental chemistry…keeping each other intrigued through conversation
1
		3%
2
		2%
3
		11%
4
		32%
5
		53%
sharing common values
1
		3%
2
		3%
3
		19%
4
		34%
5
		41%
sex off the Richterscale!
1
		10%
2
		11%
3
		32%
4
		22%
5
		25%
honesty and complete trust
1
		3%
2
		1%
3
		3%
4
		8%
5
		86%
mutual respect
1
		3%
2
		0%
3
		4%
4
		16%
5
		77%
financial stability
1
		8%
2
		13%
3
		29%
4
		34%
5
		16%
strong communication
1
		3%
2
		3%
3
		7%
4
		26%
5
		61%
Number of Respondents: 389
8. Would you end a relationship if your communication was not strong?
Yes, I think strong communication is a fundamental factor for success in a relationship.
		35%
I’m not sure. If other things were great, I might hang in there.
		54%
No, I think many other things are just as important.
		11%

9. Do you think men and women communicate differently?
Yes, overall I’d say men & women communicate differently.
		92%
Not really. I think we communicate the same.
		8%

10. What would you like to change about the communications in your current (or most recent) relationship? (check all that apply)
more frequent
		47%
more open
		58%
more interesting
		29%
less judgmental
		38%
less serious
		18%
less combative
		36%
Other…please tell me in the box below.
		11%

11. How would you describe your current relationship?
What relationship????? I'm single! (Seeing nobody, seeing everybody!)
		9%
I am in a committed relationship with one person, but we live separately.
		43%
My partner and I cohabitate...but have no plans to make it legal yet!
		16%
We are currently engaged. (living together or not!)
		7%
I am currently married. (happily or not!)
		15%
Other...please tell me about it in the box below.
		10%

12. How long have you been in this particular relationship?
Not long, less than a month.
		5%
1 - 11 months
		39%
1 - 4 years
		37%
5 - 9 years
		13%
10 years or longer
		6%

13. I am:
Male
		20%
Female
		80%